ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴡʜᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ: ᴀ ᴘᴇʀꜱᴏɴᴀʟ ᴇxᴘʟᴏʀᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏꜰ ʟᴏᴠᴇ, ᴏʙꜱᴇꜱꜱɪᴏɴ, ᴀɴᴅ ꜱᴇʟꜰ-ᴡᴏʀᴛʜ
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ʟᴏɴᴅᴏɴ, 30ᴛʜ ꜱᴇᴘᴛᴇᴍʙᴇʀ 2024
ɪ’ᴍ ᴇxᴄɪᴛᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴀɴɴᴏᴜɴᴄᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴜɴᴠᴇɪʟɪɴɢ ᴏꜰ ᴍʏ ʟᴀᴛᴇꜱᴛ ᴄᴏʟʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ, ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴡʜᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ, ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟᴇᴛᴇᴅ ᴏᴄᴛᴏʙᴇʀ 2023 ꜰᴏʟʟᴏᴡɪɴɢ ᴀɴ ɪɴᴛᴇɴꜱᴇʟʏ ʀᴇꜰʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴠᴇ ꜱᴜᴍᴍᴇʀ.
ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴄᴏʟʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ᴅᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ ɪɴᴛᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴍᴘʟᴇx ᴇᴍᴏᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟ ʟᴀɴᴅꜱᴄᴀᴘᴇꜱ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ɴᴀᴠɪɢᴀᴛᴇ ᴡʜᴇɴ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ʙᴇᴄᴏᴍᴇꜱ ᴍᴏʀᴇ ᴛʜᴀɴ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴀ ᴄᴏɴɴᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ—ɪᴛ ʙᴇᴄᴏᴍᴇꜱ ᴀɴ ᴀʟʟ-ᴄᴏɴꜱᴜᴍɪɴɢ ꜰᴏʀᴄᴇ. ᴛʜʀᴏᴜɢʜ ᴛʜɪꜱ ʙᴏᴅʏ ᴏꜰ ᴡᴏʀᴋ, ɪ ᴇxᴘʟᴏʀᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴅᴇʟɪᴄᴀᴛᴇ ʙᴀʟᴀɴᴄᴇ ʙᴇᴛᴡᴇᴇɴ ꜱᴇʟꜰʟᴇꜱꜱ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ʟᴏꜱꜱ ᴏꜰ ꜱᴇʟꜰ, ᴀ ᴛʜᴇᴍᴇ ɪ ʙᴇʟɪᴇᴠᴇ ᴍᴀɴʏ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴄᴀɴ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛᴇ ᴛᴏ.
ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴡʜᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ɪꜱ ᴀɴ ᴇxᴘʟᴏʀᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏꜰ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ʜᴀᴘᴘᴇɴꜱ ᴡʜᴇɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴀᴄᴛ ᴏꜰ ʟᴏᴠɪɴɢ ʙᴇᴄᴏᴍᴇꜱ ᴀ ʙᴜʀᴅᴇɴ—ᴡʜᴇɴ ᴡᴇ ɢɪᴠᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴏꜰ ᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ʙᴇɢɪɴ ᴛᴏ ʙʟᴜʀ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴏᴜɴᴅᴀʀɪᴇꜱ ʙᴇᴛᴡᴇᴇɴ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ꜱᴇʟꜰ-ꜱᴀᴄʀɪꜰɪᴄᴇ. ɪᴛ ᴇxᴀᴍɪɴᴇꜱ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇᴍᴏᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟ ᴡᴇɪɢʜᴛ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴏꜰᴛᴇɴ ᴄᴀʀʀʏ ɪɴ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱʜɪᴘꜱ, ᴡʜᴇᴛʜᴇʀ ʀᴏᴍᴀɴᴛɪᴄ, ꜰᴀᴍɪʟɪᴀʟ, ᴏʀ ᴘʟᴀᴛᴏɴɪᴄ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ꜱᴏᴍᴇᴛɪᴍᴇꜱ ɪɴᴠɪꜱɪʙʟᴇ ʟᴀʙᴏʀ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴀᴄᴄᴏᴍᴘᴀɴɪᴇꜱ ʟᴏᴠᴇ.
ɪɴ ᴄʀᴇᴀᴛɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇꜱᴇ ᴘɪᴇᴄᴇꜱ, ɪ ᴡᴀɴᴛᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴄᴀᴘᴛᴜʀᴇ ᴛʜᴇ ᴜɴɪᴠᴇʀꜱᴀʟ ꜱᴛʀᴜɢɢʟᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ꜱᴏ ᴍᴀɴʏ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ꜰᴀᴄᴇ: ʜᴏᴡ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴏꜰ ᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ ᴀʀᴇ ᴡᴇ ᴡɪʟʟɪɴɢ ᴛᴏ ʟᴏꜱᴇ ɪɴ ᴏʀᴅᴇʀ ᴛᴏ ᴋᴇᴇᴘ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴀʟɪᴠᴇ? ᴀɴᴅ ᴀᴛ ᴡʜᴀᴛ ᴄᴏꜱᴛ? ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏʟʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ɪꜱ ᴅᴇᴇᴘʟʏ ᴘᴇʀꜱᴏɴᴀʟ, ᴅʀᴀᴡɪɴɢ ꜰʀᴏᴍ ᴍʏ ᴏᴡɴ ᴇxᴘᴇʀɪᴇɴᴄᴇꜱ ᴀɴᴅ ᴏʙꜱᴇʀᴠᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱ ᴏꜰ ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴀʀᴏᴜɴᴅ ᴍᴇ. ᴛʜᴇꜱᴇ ᴡᴏʀᴋꜱ ʀᴇꜰʟᴇᴄᴛ ɴᴏᴛ ᴊᴜꜱᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ʙᴇᴀᴜᴛʏ ᴀɴᴅ ɪɴᴛᴇɴꜱɪᴛʏ ᴏꜰ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ʙᴜᴛ ᴀʟꜱᴏ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏꜱᴛ ᴡʜᴇɴ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ɪꜱ ᴜɴʀᴇᴄɪᴘʀᴏᴄᴀᴛᴇᴅ ᴏʀ ᴏɴᴇ-ꜱɪᴅᴇᴅ.
ꜱᴏ ᴏꜰᴛᴇɴ, ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴀʀᴇ ᴄᴏɴᴅɪᴛɪᴏɴᴇᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴇQᴜᴀᴛᴇ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴡɪᴛʜ ꜱᴀᴄʀɪꜰɪᴄᴇ, ᴛᴏ ɢɪᴠᴇ ᴜɴᴛɪʟ ᴛʜᴇʀᴇ’ꜱ ɴᴏᴛʜɪɴɢ ʟᴇꜰᴛ. ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴄᴏʟʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ʜɪɢʜʟɪɢʜᴛꜱ ᴛʜᴇ Qᴜɪᴇᴛ ᴡᴀʏꜱ ᴡᴇ ᴏᴠᴇʀᴇxᴛᴇɴᴅ ᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ ɪɴ ᴛʜᴇ ɴᴀᴍᴇ ᴏꜰ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴀɴᴅ ʜᴏᴡ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴄᴀɴ ʟᴇᴀᴅ ᴛᴏ ᴇᴍᴏᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟ ᴅᴇᴘʟᴇᴛɪᴏɴ. ʙᴜᴛ ɪᴛ’ꜱ ᴀʟꜱᴏ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ʀᴇᴄʟᴀɪᴍɪɴɢ ᴏᴜʀ ᴘᴏᴡᴇʀ—ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ꜰɪɴᴅɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴇ ᴄᴏᴜʀᴀɢᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴘʀɪᴏʀɪᴛɪᴢᴇ ᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ ɪɴ ᴀ ᴡᴏʀʟᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴏꜰᴛᴇɴ ᴇxᴘᴇᴄᴛꜱ ᴜꜱ ᴛᴏ ɢɪᴠᴇ ᴇɴᴅʟᴇꜱꜱʟʏ. ɪ ᴡᴀɴᴛᴇᴅ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴡʜᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴛᴏ ʙᴇ ᴀ ʀᴇᴍɪɴᴅᴇʀ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ꜱʜᴏᴜʟᴅ ɴᴏᴛ ᴄᴏᴍᴇ ᴀᴛ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇxᴘᴇɴꜱᴇ ᴏꜰ ᴏᴜʀ ᴏᴡɴ ꜱᴇʟꜰ-ᴡᴏʀᴛʜ.
ᴀᴛ ɪᴛꜱ ᴄᴏʀᴇ, ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴄᴏʟʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ɪꜱ ᴀ ᴍᴇᴅɪᴛᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏɴ ᴛʜᴇ ᴇᴍᴏᴛɪᴏɴᴀʟ ʟᴀʙᴏʀ ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴘᴇʀꜰᴏʀᴍ ɪɴ ʀᴇʟᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱʜɪᴘꜱ, ᴛʜᴇ ᴡᴀʏꜱ ᴡᴇ ʙᴇɴᴅ ᴀɴᴅ ʙʀᴇᴀᴋ ᴛᴏ ʜᴏʟᴅ ᴏɴᴛᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴇ ᴍᴏᴍᴇɴᴛ ᴡʜᴇɴ ᴡᴇ ʀᴇᴀʟɪᴢᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʟᴏᴠɪɴɢ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ᴄᴀɴ ᴍᴇᴀɴ ʟᴏꜱɪɴɢ ᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ. ᴛʜʀᴏᴜɢʜ ᴛʜᴇꜱᴇ ᴡᴏʀᴋꜱ, ɪ ʜᴏᴘᴇ ᴛᴏ ᴇɴᴄᴏᴜʀᴀɢᴇ ʀᴇꜰʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ᴏɴ ᴛʜᴇ ɴᴀᴛᴜʀᴇ ᴏꜰ ʟᴏᴠᴇ, ʀᴇᴍɪɴᴅɪɴɢ ᴜꜱ ᴀʟʟ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴛʀᴜᴇ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴅᴏᴇꜱɴ'ᴛ ᴅᴇᴍᴀɴᴅ ᴏᴜʀ ꜱᴇʟꜰ-ᴇʀᴀꜱᴜʀᴇ.
ᴛʜɪꜱ ʜᴀꜱ ʙᴇᴇɴ ᴀ ᴄᴀᴛʜᴀʀᴛɪᴄ ᴊᴏᴜʀɴᴇʏ ꜰᴏʀ ᴍᴇ, ᴀɴᴅ ɪ ʜᴏᴘᴇ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ᴛʜɪꜱ ᴄᴏʟʟᴇᴄᴛɪᴏɴ ʀᴇꜱᴏɴᴀᴛᴇꜱ ᴡɪᴛʜ ᴛʜᴏꜱᴇ ᴡʜᴏ ʜᴀᴠᴇ ᴇᴠᴇʀ ꜰᴇʟᴛ ᴛʜᴇʏ’ᴠᴇ ʟᴏᴠᴇᴅ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴅᴇᴇᴘʟʏ, ᴛᴏᴏ ɪɴᴛᴇɴꜱᴇʟʏ, ᴏʀ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ. ᴡᴏᴍᴇɴ ᴡʜᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴛᴏᴏ ᴍᴜᴄʜ ɪꜱ ᴜʟᴛɪᴍᴀᴛᴇʟʏ ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ʜᴇᴀʟɪɴɢ—ᴀʙᴏᴜᴛ ᴜɴᴅᴇʀꜱᴛᴀɴᴅɪɴɢ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ʟᴏᴠᴇ, ɪɴ ɪᴛꜱ ᴘᴜʀᴇꜱᴛ ꜰᴏʀᴍ, ɪꜱ ᴍᴜᴛᴜᴀʟ ᴀɴᴅ ʙᴀʟᴀɴᴄᴇᴅ, ᴀɴᴅ ᴛʜᴀᴛ ɪᴛ’ꜱ ᴏᴋᴀʏ ᴛᴏ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴏᴜʀꜱᴇʟᴠᴇꜱ ᴀꜱ ꜰɪᴇʀᴄᴇʟʏ ᴀꜱ ᴡᴇ ʟᴏᴠᴇ ᴏᴛʜᴇʀꜱ.
